Overcome People Pleasing
A safe space to reconnect with yourself.
Have trouble saying no to other people’s requests and go along with what they want to do. You do this to feel accepted and avoid conflict.
Struggle with asking for help or for what you want.
Feel uncomfortable giving people your honest critical feedback.
Struggle with voicing your own opinions or feelings, or withhold them for fear of angering someone, being teased, or being told that your thoughts and emotions don’t matter.
Put other people’s needs first, forgetting about your own and overworking to exhaustion and burnout.
Hide your true feelings about your experiences and have trouble asserting and prioritizing your needs.
Whichever way you’ve come, I’m happy you’re here. Read on to see whether the therapy I provide to overcome people pleasing might help you.
You may have landed here if you tend to . . .
For a long time, you may have prioritized other people’s comfort and needs at your own expense. What’s keeping you there?
People pleasing can be described as being stuck in a cycle that feels tricky and confusing.
Perhaps you’re terrified of rejection or abandonment, which makes it scary and difficult to express your true self and assert your needs. You don’t feel like you’ve formed close relationships because of this fear.
You might feel resentful, stressed, and overwhelmed from being stretched thin. You find yourself going through the motions, but it’s difficult for you to remain mentally and emotionally present to what you’re doing. Getting caught up in overwork, day in and day out, has been leading you to burnout, anxiety, and depression.
All of this makes you feel lost, empty, and disconnected from who you are. You have little idea of what you want out of life. Life has seemed purposeless for a while, but it also feels intimidating and overwhelming to figure this all out because you don’t know where to start.
If you relate to this: You need a safe space where you can step away from the responsibilities and expectations to prioritize recovery from people pleasing. By doing so, you can reconnect with yourself by examining what led you here and how to end this cycle.
Together, we’ll unearth what a fulfilling, meaningful life looks like, and explore what truly matters to you.
To help you build the life you want, I’ll use evidence-based tools to help you tame your inner critic, live in the present moment, accept what is out of your control, and commit to doing things that you care about that is within your control, even if it means stepping outside of your comfort zone.
As you learn to overcome people pleasing, I’ll handhold you through how to handle self-judgmental chatter and painful feelings that you may have so that they lose their power over you. I’ll also teach you to navigate interpersonal situations more effectively. Skill building would include boundary setting, assertive communication, and flexible responding.
We’ll also find more flexible ways of living your life so that you feel more like yourself, energized instead of resentful, exhausted, or burnt out.
My experience with people pleasing
As a psychologist, daughter, sister, and friend, I recognize that none of us lives in a vacuum. Having grown up in an immigrant household, I know firsthand that family beliefs and cultural values can shape what you do and say to feel accepted. Some of you may have also been taught to place others’ needs and expectations ahead of your own.
From personal experience, I understand that navigating family and cultural influences on people pleasing can feel tricky because you cannot simply ignore them or just say and do as you please. The process of overcoming people pleasing often requires that you carefully consider these values based on the situation and flexibly tailor your response.
I greatly enjoy blending my experiences with my clinical training to provide a safe, nurturing space that allows you to explore what a fulfilling life looks like. I help you to identify core values and build skills that will allow you to work toward living a life you envision.